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After a few weeks of keeping things relatively private, we have decided to share what we are up against with our baby girl for a few reasons.

First, Joey and I believe in the power of prayer and we are hoping that the more people who know, the more people will pray for us and our baby. Secondly, I have received so many calls, texts, and messages over the last 24 hours that I thought explaining it once would be easier than trying to get back to everyone.  From the bottom of our hearts, thank you for caring. It means more than you know. Thirdly, being fake really bothers me. I don’t want to be fake and when people ask me “How I’m feeling” or “How the baby is doing,” I don’t want to say “good” because neither one of us are really “good” right now. (At the same time, I don’t want to have to explain this a thousand times).  Finally, after three different appointments yesterday, all of this information is kind of swarming in my head, and I think that writing it all out will help me to sort things out myself. It’s 4:27am and I can’t sleep anyway, so I’m hoping this will be therapeutic. So here goes…

The Background

Early in May, Joey and I had our routine ultrasound where we learned the exciting news that we would be having a little girl. The next day, I received a call from my OB that the tech had found some things that were concerning including a dilated stomach and bladder. They set me up for a follow-up ultrasound at West Penn in Pittsburgh where they have better equipment and could get a better idea of what might be going on. The OB nurse told me it could be nothing, but they just wanted to be sure. Of course, a person immediately becomes anxious when you hear something could be “wrong” with your child, but after talking to many friends and colleagues who also had to do follow up scans that were bogus, I felt confident it was probably just an error. We went to our appointment yesterday cautious, yet both feeling that it was probably nothing. We just wanted to get it over with so we could get on with our lives and not have it hanging over us.

The appointment started with a consult with a genetic counselor who took all of our info and said it sounded like we would have a perfectly healthy baby. She explained that even with the measurements the tech from Kittanning sent, we still fell under the “normal” category for the baby’s stomach. The bladder did seem a little enlarged, but she thought that could have just meant that the baby recently took a big drink and needed to pee. At that point, my nerves were calmed and we entered the ultrasound room laughing and excited to get another picture of our baby.

As soon as the tech brought up the picture, my heart sank. I knew right away that something wasn’t right. There was a very large, dark circle taking up a good part of the baby’s midsection, and I knew that wasn’t there in Jonah’s ultrasounds. I asked her what that dark circle was and she very quietly and calmly replied that it was the baby’s bladder. We all remained very quiet for the rest of the scan. She did her best to be positive, showing us two arms, and two legs, fingers and toes and letting us know that the baby’s heartbeat was great. As soon as she walked out I looked at Joey with tears and asked him to start praying because I knew something was very wrong. He didn’t have the same feeling and wondered how I would “know” that already, and I told him I just did. Mother’s instinct I suppose.

The tech told us to stay in the room and about 10 minutes later, which felt like an eternity, the doctor, who I’d never met before, came in. She said she was sorry to have to tell us, but she had some very concerning news. She went on to explain that our baby’s bladder is severely enlarged at this point. She actually described it as “shocking.” There is a blockage and they believe it is a membrane where the opening of the urethra is located. She, and my doctor (who we met with later in the day), believe that the membrane just didn’t fully open and that it is causing urine to back up in the baby’s bladder. This is a condition that is very rare. When it does occur, it is almost always found in boys, and is extremely rare to see in little girls. So what does that mean for the baby?

Possible Outcomes

  1. The blockage could open up and resolve itself in time, and this is what we’re asking you to pray for. We have another ultrasound at West Penn in 3 weeks, and it is possible that we may go back and the pressure from the backup has caused the blockage to open. It could be fully resolved with no further complications if that were to happen.
  2. If the bladder continues to fill, it would eventually push the urine up into that baby’s other organs. It could cause kidney damage or damage to other organs. If this happens, I will need fetal surgery which will take place at Magee Hospital. (Due to the ongoing saga between UPMC and Highmark, at this time, this is a surgery that is only partially covered by my Highmark insurance, so that would be another prayer request). They will go into the baby, inside of my uterus, and insert a catheter to let the baby empty the urine. This is a very risky procedure, and the biggest risk is infection which could lead to an early emergency delivery or other complications.
  3. The doctors made it clear that this could be fatal for our baby.  I am now considered a high risk pregnancy, and my care will be shared between West Penn, ACMH, and possibly Magee if I need to have the surgery.

The Good News

I point blank asked Dr. Narcisse (who is quite possibly the most wonderful OB ever) if she thinks the baby will be okay. She said “yes” and explained why she is  hopeful at this point. There IS good news.

  1. As of now, the fluids have not entered any other organs. All other organs appear to be functioning normally and are the appropriate size. At this point, it appears there has been no long term damage done already.
  2. What the doctors found most encouraging is that my amniotic fluid levels are normal. This perplexed them to some degree because (which I didn’t previously know), a baby swallows amniotic fluid, then urinates it out, then repeats that process throughout the 2nd and 3rd trimester. With the bladder being so full, the doctor’s expected the amniotic fluid to be low which can be very dangerous for the baby for many reasons. This is not the case with our baby which indicates there is probably some sort of pin hole or small opening where urine is exiting. It is probably just a trickle however, rather than a smooth flow as it should be.

Now What

I asked all of my doctors what I should do at this point to help our baby girl. I wondered if there was a medication I could take, a food I could eat, or an exercise I should (or shouldn’t do) to make this happen for her and they all gave me the same answer. Nothing. There is nothing we could have done to cause this, nothing we can do to fix it, and nothing I can do to make it better or worse. They said that it is going to be a very long four months, with many appointments, and many decisions. They all told me that the best thing I can do is go home and cry, and then make a point to get up and just keep living life as I was, spending time with friends and family, playing with Jonah, exercising, and anything I can do to not lose my mind with worry because for awhile at least, it is just a waiting game.  We would be so grateful if you would pray for our baby. Right now, she has a strong heartbeat. She has had a name since our 13 week ultrasound when we learned she was a girl (though we are keeping that private for now). She is very active, kicking me constantly. She just needs a little help to resolve this problem, and we know that God is the only one who can help her do so at this point. With that said, we know that God may choose not to heal our baby, and that He is still good, and he still has a plan for our baby and our family.  I pray we hold on to that truth, no matter what the outcome.

For Hope and Health,

<3 Laura, Joey and JonahChristmas



  1. Michelle Snavely says:

    You are in my prayers Laura. Please keep us updated as you go along in your pregnancy.

  2. Judy Shimko says:

    I am praying for all of you!! Praying for God’s will in this situation.

  3. Amber says:

    Oh my goodness, Laura. You can be assured that I will be pouring prayers out for you all.

  4. Kylie says:

    So sorry to hear about your little baby girl. I will be praying the issue resolves without need for surgery.

  5. Kelly says:

    Praying for your baby and family Laura.

  6. Teresa Lovic says:

    Praying for you and the baby. Praying through His mercy and grace that blockage will break through and cause no ill effects on her at all. All in the name of Jesus.

  7. Kayla says:

    U will definitely be in our thoughts and prayers. Just stay positive and always remember our Lord is great! And HE never gives us more than we can handle. HE has a wonderful plan for ur little girl! Just have faith and everything will work out.

  8. Nancy says:

    Praying for you and your family. God is merciful. I know that from personal experience . Prayer is powerful. Take care.

  9. Carolyn says:

    Prayers for your baby girl. I will join in the prayers for complete, immediate resolution to her bladder problem.

  10. Martin osborne says:

    Adversity! John and the Disciples faced it and put it in Gods hands. You guys do that to. He has our lives all framed out fr us and he is building strength with you guys. Always my prayers will be with you and my friend Joey and the little 1 you are carrying!

    • laurabisping says:

      Thank you very much, Martin. Yes, adversity is promised to us that we might persevere and bring glory to God. Easier said than done, but praying for strength to do so.

  11. Je n Southworth says:

    Praying for you and your family..

  12. robin says:

    Father we come to you on behalf of this precious baby girl we plead the blood of Christ over her, open up this blockage and bring her into this world healthy we thank you and give you the praise and glory in Jesus name Amen

  13. Jeannette Errett says:

    Covering you and Princess Bisping in prayer. Even before she is born, Lord You know this precious child. You have woven her together in her mother’s womb. Creating her in Your image. I praise you Lord for her healing which is complete by the way of the cross. We stand in faith, trust , and belief that this membrane is resolved, opened, and in the proper place. I praise You Abba Daddy for the good report of her other organs and Laura’s amniotic fluid and her health as well. Thank you Lord, that this precious couple have a personal relationship with You. Lord, meet them right where they’re at with everything that they need to get thru these next months. May the walk in peace, strength, and joy. May words of praise flow forth from them when fear and aniexty attack. Bring about good from this journey. May many lives be touched by the testimony of this precious couple. What is released in Heaven, I ask that it be released here on Earth for them. In the name above all names, Jesus Christ, amen.

    • laurabisping says:

      I am in tears, Jeannette. Such a beautiful and heartfelt prayer from someone who doesn’t even really know me. It is truly humbling, and what I would pray if I had the perfect words. I will be coming back to this prayer and praying it myself and rereading it over the next several weeks/months. Truly, thank you so very much.

  14. R.L. says:

    This was shared in a prayer group on Facebook.
    Our son has had 6 heart surgeries, he’s 20.5 months and doing fantastic! We know what it is to be concerned and to stand in faith for our child!
    Most important, we serve a good loving God, who has many promises for our children that we can stand on.
    Also, Pittsburgh has some incredible doctors on staff. You are in a good place.
    Finally, we were told for our sons surgeries at children, that had our insurance not covered it, PA Medicare (i believe, it was some sort of PA State Insurance) would have covered the entire remainder.
    Stand in faith, on the word. And i stand in agreement with those who are agreeing that this blockage will open. Matt 18:20, John 15,7, Deut 28:4, Prov 14:26, Ps 112:2

    • laurabisping says:

      Thanks for sharing your son’s story, Ronald. We find a lot of comfort in hearing stories of God’s healing power, and I’m thankful to hear he is doing so well. I agree that the doctors in Pittsburgh are amazing and we’re trying very hard not to worry about the insurance thing. Thank you so very much for your kind words and prayers.

  15. Christle says:

    Praying for a complete healing!

  16. Bonnie Payson says:

    May God bless & keep safe that little miracle As prayers go up, blessings will fall down on you & your family in this time of need. Sending my prayers to ALL! !

    • laurabisping says:

      We have truly been blessed by the MANY thoughts, encouragement and especially prayers of friends, family, and so many strangers. Thank you for your sweet words and prayers, Bonnie.

  17. In the mighty & majestic name above every name, I speak directly to the blockage in this baby girl’s bladder. By my God-given authority, I COMMAND you to be removed, allowing this bladder to empty naturally. Father, I acknowledge that healing was bought & paid for by the stripes that Jesus took on Calvary’s hill, & I apply that healing to Baby Girl Bisping right now! I envision the healing virtue of the Lord Jesus just coursing throughout her system, righting every wrong as it goes. And I THANK YOU in advance for the miraculous outcome that is fully expected, in Jesus’ name, Amen!

  18. Lauren says:

    Immediately started praying for your little family and that God heals your precious little girl! Your mindset (that He is good ALL the time) is so encouraging. <3 Will continue to pray!

  19. Chrissy Cafaro says:

    Keep your high faith, I pray the Lord’s will be done for you and your precious family. Running to these appointments and getting several answers and non answers and tests will be exhausting. Make sure you find some quiet time and rest to keep your heart and spirits high. We will be praying for her to release naturally and soon so this scare can pass. Hang in there Mama ♡♡♡

  20. Sandi says:

    Prayers for you and your sweet girl!

  21. Dana Parzych says:

    wanted to let you know that my life group and online bible study group will be praying for you little girl and will give God the glory with you for every move he makes, known and unknown.

  22. Ginger Vaughan says:

    Praying for you and your baby girl. God has a plan for her.

  23. Kelly Stover says:

    You and your family are in my continuous thoughts and prayers. Stay strong and positive.

  24. Adele says:

    Will be praying for you and your baby girl everyday!!!

  25. Pam Kirkpatrick says:

    Praying for you and your baby girl, that the blockage will break through, and you will deliver a healthy baby girl. You are going to the best Dr.’s and hospitals you can, please keep us updated.

  26. Laura says:

    Jamie Martin shared your prayer request/blog on FB. She and I mentored 5th grade AWANA girls years ago. I wanted to let you know that I am praying for you . I am also married to one of the high risk OBs at Magee. I wanted to assure you that should your baby need surgery the team there is phenomenal. I can not speak for all of the doctors, nurses, and techs but I know my husband prays for his patients wether they know it or not. Praying for healing and that surgery is NOT needed!

    • laurabisping says:

      Thank you, thank you for your comment, Laura! What you wrote about your husband praying for patients is perhaps one of the most reassuring thing I’ve heard over the last few days. I really appreciate your prayers and kind words.

  27. Amanda says:

    If you’re having that much inaccuracy with ACMH, you should maybe thinking about switching to magee. You won’t regret it! They’re the best!

    • laurabisping says:

      Thanks, Amanda. I hear wonderful things about Magee. I am forever grateful for the sweet technician at ACMH though who found the problem to begin with. If she hadn’t, we still may not know. Most of my care will be through West Penn at this point, in collaboration with Dr. Narcisse and ABC women’s care. She is amazing. Only the surgery would be at Magee, though they are not covered by my insurance anymore since I have Highmark. 🙂

  28. Andrea Paulden says:

    I have been praying throughout the night for you and your baby.
    I am not certain of many things in life, but I am certain of the healing powers of our Lord and Savior.
    Matthew 4:23-24: Jesus healed every disease and sickness.

  29. Amanda says:

    Praying for you and your sweet precious baby! I hope you get the kinda news that will be the best for your situation and god lays his hands on all of you

  30. Faith Dunmire says:

    We are still praying for you and the baby. Hope everything goes well and you don’t have to have surgery! Let us know if you need a babysitter or anything like meals, etc.

  31. Leigh says:

    You are my hero in so many ways, Laura. I’ve always admired your inner-strength and you have more than any other woman I know. No matter what happens in this situation, I know you will come out on top and stronger than ever!

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